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Man on top sex positions

Just about everyone has more sex in the man on top position than any other - and everyone can tell you why they enjoy it so much! Even if you like to experiment, man on top is the sexual position to which you'll always return. It's like coming home to the familiar warm embrace of a lover: a lover who knows every nook and cranny of your body and wants to explore it in comfort as you lie together. And man on top sex lets us express some fundamental things about who we are: men can be dominant, can take the leading role, can be the active participant in the sex act, the penetrator, the taker of the woman; women can be the adored recipient of the man's sexual attention, his love and his capacity to "take" his partner.

Don't misunderstand this, it's not meant to be a prescription of sex roles in today's society! But for many people there is something deeply fulfilling in playing out the positions and roles of dominant and subordinate, active and passive, penetrator and penetrated, roles which man on top sex positions seem to exemplify so beautifully. 

This is a very loving sex position, too. Men, who often become more aware of their feelings of love towards their partner during sex, are most likely to experience a sense of being bonded with her in man on top sex. Other positions, such as rear entry, are just too sexually arousing for a man to feel tender and loving in this way, and woman on top positions, while exciting for both partners, are not positions that are especially emotionally connecting. But in the man on top position, the male partner can easily feel his love for his partner and celebrate the joy of the gift she gives him - the gift of her Yoni, the privilege of entering her treasured secret garden, the essence of her femininity.

Women too, adore the closeness, the snuggling-togetherness of sex in the man on top position. Or at least they do when the couple are lying close together in contact, for man on top positions are almost infinitely variable, and the couple can find many ways of moving position to enhance the physical pleasure of sex. 

The two basic man on top positions are something like the ones you can see in the pictures here:

That's "basic" in this sense - the couple lie full length: he is on top and has his legs outside hers in one picture; she has her legs outside his in the other picture. What makes that variation so good for both partners is that it allows her to offer him a tighter or looser vagina - as she brings her legs together, it tightens up, and she can then give him intense pleasure as she grips his penis in her tender flesh. Such tightness in her vagina is heavenly for her man. 

But it's not just about his satisfaction - of course not. For women can delight in the anticipation of penetration, savoring the seduction and the wooing, the gentle caressing and the cuddles, loving the journey of sexual arousal which culminates when their vagina is awaiting the moment of penetration with juicy eagerness. At this stage of sex, her desire to be penetrated can be almost overwhelming, matching in intensity his desire to take her and thrust deep into her body. And they can kiss as they make love, which adds to the romance of this sex position. He may need her help to find her vaginal opening, or his penis may be guided straight to its target by her juicy labia. If he needs help to get in, he should not be shy of asking for it - it's better to have good communication and share what is happening than to fumble mutely in embarrassment as you try to get into position. 

And because the couple face each other, they can kiss and murmur sweet words to each other as he enters her and while he thrusts. If he takes it gently at first, making small thrusts into the first two inches or so of her vagina, positioning himself on his arms and legs so that his penis hits the sensitive bits of her vagina, he can drive her wild with desire. The pace of sex will then tend to hot up, and, if you like powerful and deep thrusting, you'll both naturally move into a position which allows the deepest thrusts. But thrusting is not limited to the man - the woman can move her hips as well, and in doing so will increase both her own excitement and that of her partner.

And there's the rub. Sex in the man on top position can be just too exciting for a man to hold on for long. We'd all like to have perfect control of the timing of our orgasm, but even among men who generally have pretty good control, the intense excitement and deep pelvic thrusts possible in man on top sex positions can make us rush towards orgasm. You both need to have self-discipline to make sex last - you need to intersperse deep thrusts with shallow ones, and the man needs to pay attention to his partner's level of arousal so that she does not get left behind as he moves rapidly to orgasm. If he is moving too fast, the couple can slow down or stop and lie still for a while to let his arousal drop. 

And that may be a good time to stimulate her clit - for few women can come in the man on position if they don't have clitoral stimulation. You may find that if you can hold on for long enough, and play your penis against her G-spot for long enough, that she gets intensely aroused and moves into orgasmic bliss, but most women will need clitoral stimulation to get to orgasm during man on top sex.

So once you've got the hang of that, what happens next? In the second illustration below, the woman has moved her pelvis - she's moved it so that she gets a different physical sensation in her vagina and on her vulva as her man thrusts. In the third picture, she moves again, and so it goes on in the photo sequence as you can see. All these variations are about getting more pleasure by changing the angle of how the couples' manly and womanly bits interact!

But what do you need to know in practice? Something that can bring sexual pleasure to a grinding halt, or an explosive climax, depending on how you look at it (and also which side up you are) is the deep penetration achievable in the position depicted last picture shown in the sequence above. Such deep penetration, combined with the powerful pelvic thrusts which a man will always want to enjoy during man on top sex, tends to make men come far too quickly - at least as far as their partner's concerned! So this can be a good sex position in which to end intercourse - provided the woman is flexible enough and willing enough to expose herself in this vulnerable way. You'd expect to see that variation of man on top sex featuring in a tried and trusted relationship, maybe, rather than a new one where the partners are still learning about each other's likes and dislikes, their vulnerabilities and sensitive spots, and which positions make their hearts and genitals sing during the act of love.

And here's something else useful to know: not all women are going to want to get their legs around their ears just because it gives their man a thrill to see them so exposed! Sex is supposed to be a complementary and equal experience, and encouraging one partner to do something unwillingly just because it gives you a thrill is not a way to establish a trusting relationship. On the other hand, women are often very willing to try new sexual positions either because they enjoy either the physical pleasure this gives them or because they enjoy seeing their partner getting such pleasure. On the left below is something many a man will recognize as a source of great pleasure - a position which gives him the ability to see his cock sliding in and out of his partner as they make love. And on the right is something many a woman who appreciates vigorous thrusting when she is aroused will enjoy - a position in which she can really enjoy the full power and grace of her man's masculine energy as they make love.

There's a photo below which is just too lewd! But the very deepest penetration is achievable when the woman presents herself naked and vulnerable to her man's attention as shown in the right hand picture. However, it's a mistake to think of the man on top position as a "Me Tarzan, You Jane" way of relating during sex. Women can be aroused to levels of sexual passion which easily matches - some would say exceeds - men's, and the pleasure of being seen in this naked and vulnerable way, full of desire and rampaging sexual energy, can be a turn on in itself.

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